Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Sex, Drugs, and Cheating: Can We Trust Anyone Anymore?

by John B. Rosenman

              Maybe it’s my imagination, but it seems there’s a lot more lying these days, especially when it comes to sex and drugs.  When these cheating rascals are caught, they lie and lie and self-righteously deny.  It gets so after a while we think those who are innocent must be guilty, too.
              Here’s a few who recently entered the Hall of Shame.
              Bob Filner, Mayor of San Diego, denied groping and worse when it came to over a dozen women, one of them a great grandmother.  Though he resigned, he not only denied his actions amounted to sexual harassment but said his resignation was the result of a “lynch mob mentality” because he challenged the city’s power elite.  It’s always someone else’s fault.
             Anthony Weiner resigned from Congress in 2011 when he was caught sexting his, uh, not-so-private parts on Twitter to numerous women.  He lied and denied until finally, driven to bay, he was forced to come clean.  He promised he wouldn’t do it again and recently entered the NY City mayoral race, only to be busted a second time.  Is Sexting cheating, especially if his wife stands beside him and swears she loves him?  We may sympathize with his sexual addiction, but Weiner does appear to be a serial liar with a politically crippling problem.  One constituent shouted, “How can we trust you?”   
             All too often these people lie about sex.  They make me appreciate someone like General David Petraeus, who promptly admitted his affair and wrote to a friend, “I screwed up royally.”
             As for drugs, Lance Armstrong is at the top of the list.  He broke my heart.  A cancer survivor, he not only won the Tour de France seven straight times, he established a foundation that has helped thousands of victims.  Ah, but he also lied repeatedly about juicing and organized a massive team doping scheme.  And when some folks told the truth about his using drugs, he brutally attacked and damaged their lives.  After the International Cycling Union investigated Armstrong, it stripped him of all his titles.  Lance’s own foundation dropped his name, and he lives now in disgrace.  His defense of his lies and drug use?  Everyone was doing it, and he had to do it too in order to win.  
             Besides cycling, drugs affect other sports.  Juicing has rendered performances and new records in sports such as track and baseball increasingly suspect.  Mark McGwire.  Sammy Sosa.  Barry Bonds.  Are Maris’ 61 home runs or Bonds’s 73 home runs the true record?  Of course, Bonds denies he juiced.
             Then we have Alex Rodriguez, denying it for the second time after he'd been caught dead to rights before.  Rafael Palmeiro.  Ryan Braun.  They all denied any use of PEDs and swore they were as pure as driven snow.  I keep thinking of Pinocchio, whose nose grew a little every time he told a lie.  If that happened to these guys, their noses would reach the moon.
             Some folks may say we’ve always had lecherous men and women who take advantage of their power, and that today’s media just call it to our attention more readily and in a more spectacular fashion.  I guess that’s true.  Before TV, the Internet, Twitter, Google, etc., guys like Filner and Weiner could do their thing in comparative secrecy and not be "forced" to lie about it so much.  Now there’s a good chance their vulgar antics will go viral and be replayed endlessly on CNN.  As for baseball and other sports, well, they just didn’t have PEDs a few decades ago.  If they had, those sports would be as dirty as they are now.       
             Maybe so, but I still think we as a society have deteriorated.  I believe Armstrong’s fall from grace, while painful, is justified.  Though redemption is possible, Bob Filmer and Anthony Weiner probably shouldn’t hold office again.  A-Rod richly deserves his 211 game suspension, and Ryan Braun should thank his lucky stars he was given the boot for only 65 games.
            As a society, Americans tolerate and forgive lying and sexually immoral behavior too easily from their spoiled rich heroes who don’t appreciate their good fortune or their responsibility to be role models.  To quote Luke 12:48: “For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more.” 

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

The Writer's Curse of Posthumous Success

ONE AND DONE.  It's a legacy that belongs to remarkable writers such as A.S.A. Harrison, who died of cancer in April, only weeks before her book was published.  She was 65.

Like last summer's blockbuster thriller Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn, The Silent Wife is about a crumbling, destructive relationship between a man and a woman.  Harrison spent much of her career as an editor and writing nonfiction.  She described her two earlier novels which never sold to a publisher as "cozy mysteries." The Silent Wife was more successful.  As Julie Bosman notes in her article "Novelist's Debut Will Be Her Legacy," by the time of her death, Harrison "had read early sparkling reviews of her novel." According to her husband, "she had a sense that it could be a success." (The Virginian-Pilot. 08.06.03. 2)

But oh the waste, oh the cruelty.  It's not for nothing I use the word "curse" in the title.  Some readers may say she at least enjoyed the success of being published by a major publisher and knowing she had written a good book.  But why couldn't she have seen her publisher, Penguin Books go "back to press seven times" in rapid succession and print "a total of 144,000 copies"? (Bosman) Why couldn't she have lived to see The Silent Wife "make its debut on the New York Times' combined print and e-book best-seller list next week at No. 11"? (Bosman)  How would it have harmed the Cosmic Plan if A.S.A. Harrison had lived just a few months longer?

As many of us know, writing good books and finding publishers for them is hard enough without battling a deadly disease and poor health on top of it.  At times it seems the gods just roll their loaded dice and laugh at us.   

Perhaps the supreme case of this "curse" is John Keats, a supremely gifted nineteenth-century Romantic poet who died of consumption (tuberculosis) at the age of twenty-five.  Talk about injustice.  The guy had perhaps the greatest poetic gift since Shakespeare.  All he wanted (besides the chance to marry Fanny Brawne) was "ten years" to "overwhelm" myself "in poesy; so I may do the deed/ That my own soul has to itself decreed."

He was to have barely three years before ill health destroyed his hopes of any meaningful literary success either in this life or the next one.  The epitaph he composed for his own grave reflects his bleak expectations: "Here lies One Whose Name was writ in Water."  Yet today this very young man who did not even begin writing poetry until he had turned seventeen is regarded as one of the great poets of the English Romantic period. Fortunately, we have his masterpieces such as the "great odes," The Eve of St. Agnes, and La Belle Dame sans Merci.  Yet what might John Keats have achieved, what heights could he have attained, if he had lived to the modest age of fifty-two, as did William Shakespeare?  The Norton Anthology of English Literature states, "What he [John Keats] might have done is beyond conjecture; what we do know is that his poetry, when he stopped writing at the age of twenty-four, exceeds the accomplishment at the same age of Chaucer, Shakespeare, and Milton."

Sometimes the curse is self-inflicted and takes a most unique, unexpected turn.  Because of severe emotional problems and the repeated rejection of A Confederacy of Dunces, John Kennedy Toole committed suicide at the age of thirty-one. End of story, right?  Except that according to Walker Percy, the author's mother discovered the "badly smeared, scarcely readable carbon" manuscript of the novel, pronounced it great, and repeatedly demanded he read it, even coming to Percy's office with the book in hand. ("Foreword," A Confederacy of Dunces, Grove Press, Inc. 1981).  He grudgingly gave in, hoping to read a few pages and return the "hefty" mess, telling her it was so bad he could not "in good conscience" read any farther.

Well, the exact opposite happened, and the rest is history.  What Percy describes as "A great rumbling farce of Falstaffian dimensions" went on to knock the critics dead and was awarded the Pulitzer Prize for Fiction in 1981. All this happened because the author killed himself and his mother believed in his book.

What can we learn from these three writers and others like them?  Basically, when we feel sorry for ourselves, we should count our blessings. While we have breath and reasonable good health, we should write, enjoy, and be thankful for our life. There are worse things than not being a commercially or critically successful writer.  Also, we should not count on good luck too much.  In addition, let's be humble and avoid the sin of pride whenever and wherever we can.  After all, just about everything except our character can be snatched away at a moment's notice.

And one last thing.  For God's sake, let's take time out to smell the flowers.